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The Southeast Asian peninsula country of Malaysia shares a border with Thailand and is just a few kilometres away from Singapore. A former colony of the United Kingdom, it is a largely Islamic nation famed for its food, beautiful beaches and fascinating culture and history. Home to around 32 million people, the nation is an emerging and developing economy that still relies heavily on tourism for its economy.
In this guide, we take a look at the culture of sex in Malaysia including the laws on prostitution, pornography and gay rights. We also delve into the social attitudes towards sex and find out how to get a casual date online.
Sex in Malaysia
Malaysia is predominantly an Islamic nation that is characterised by both secular and Sharia (Islamic) law. In most parts of the country there is a strong cultural, social and religious taboo on pre-marital sex. In the cities, this is less prominent but does still pervade. In general, sex is viewed as a private activity that should only take place between a man and woman who are married. In practice, the country faces the same curiosity around sex that the rest of the world has. Experimental sex, curious teenagers, infidelity and prostitution are all part and parcel of modern Malaysia.
Despite presenting a mainly traditional and conservative front, the country also has its own share of political sex scandals and porn access.
In the Global Face of Sex survey of 2012, it was reported that Malaysian women are the third least faithful partners in the world; 39% of women reported that they had cheated on their partners (the highest rate was in Ghana at 62% followed by Thailand at 59%).
Malaysians also reported on their most unusual places to have sex with the top three spots being:
- On the loo (44%)
- In the car (38%)
- In their parent
9% of Malaysians had reported being in a threesome, 19% have experienced anal sex (despite anti-sodomy laws) and 29% had had a one-night stand.
The same report also identified that 74% of Malaysians were having sex at least once a week. This rate places the country in the top eight of all countries polled (behind Greece, Brazil, Russia, China, Italy and Poland). In fact, the national average is 83 times per year which is ahead of Singapore at 73 times and Japan at 45 times.
Conversely and to prove that quality wins over quantity just 38% of Malaysians were satisfied with their sex lives putting them in the bottom eight of all those countries surveyed.
The average size of penis in Malaysia is 0.2” longer than the regional average at 4.5”; however, this is a full inch shorter than the global average of 5.5”
Around 1.7million men in Malaysia suffer with erectile dysfunction and Pfizer has reported that around 40,000 Malaysians are using their Viagra pills on a regular basis.
Reported in 2012,the average age that Malaysian’s lose their virginity is 23, up from 19 in 2004.
Malaysia is actually the leading global producer of condoms, making over a billion of them every year (roughly a third of the world market). It is unsurprising that for a developing nation in this area of the world, Malaysia has a very high use of condom use at 54%.
Sex education in Malaysia is poor and is mostly biological rather than covering consent, contraception and healthy sexual relationships. In areas where religious bodies preside over education, the situation is even worse with young people only being taught about abstinence and purity.
Despite this, unplanned pregnancies are one of the lowest in Asia and the second lowest in Southeast Asia at 66.7% of women never experiencing an unexpected pregnancy. In teens however, incidences of pregnancy are high with 18,000 cases in the last year.
Adult Industry in Malaysia
There are no adult industries in Malaysia, even selling sex toys is prohibited in most parts of the country though you can find some stores in the capital. The production and distribution of pornography is illegal and those found in breach of this law can find themselves facing severe punishment.
As a result, any Malaysian porn stars have found fame outside of their own country; often working for studios based elsewhere in Asia.
Top Porn Stars in Malaysia
The only Malaysian born porn star of international note is Nyomi Zen who has starred in over 100 movies. Popular across three of the main porn tube sites, she has racked up over 50 million video views. Her most popular titles include ‘Black Dicks in Asian Chicks 2’, ‘Love That Asian Ass’ and ‘Appetite for Ass Destruction 2’. Needless to say, she is best known for her anal scenes including A2M action.
Prostitution Laws in Malaysia
Prostitution is legal in Malaysia and can be found throughout the country with the exception of the Kelantan state. This remote region of the country operates largely under autonomous rule and has a different culture and lifestyle to the rest of the nation. They even speak a different version of Malay which is unintelligible to many Malaysians. In Kelantan, prostitution is outlawed and punishment for breach of this law is severe with public canings and whippings being common.
Though brothels and soliciting are common they are not legal. Profiting from the proceeds of another person selling sex is illegal as is soliciting for sex in public. Prostitutes may also be dealt with under vagrancy, as well as other specific, laws; for instance, health regulations prevent beauty parlours and massage salons from operating for sexual services.
Despite this, the capital of Kuala Lumpur has a few red-light districts where you can find brothels and massage parlours as well as street hookers. Each has a different intended clientbase with the upmarket red-light area of Bukit Bintang being notorious for tourists. Chow Kit is said to be a popular spot for transsexuals whilst the Lorong Haji Taib is usually frequented by locals.
Prostitutes of different ethnicities can be found in different red-light areas and there are a lot of Asian women from Indonesia, China, Thailand and Cambodia. African prostitutes usually work in the Bukit Bintang district.
Other red-light areas of note in the city include the Brickfields areas of Jalan Alor, Jalan Thamibipilly and Jalan Hicks, Jalan Petaling and Jalan Imbi.
It is estimated that around 150,000 prostitutes are currently working in Malaysia generating around $963million in income.
Prices for sex in Malaysia can vary greatly depending on the class of prostitute. The average street price is between $10 and $20 with escorts in the cities charging up to $150 per hour.
Malaysia Porn Viewing Trends
Pornography is illegal in Malaysia with both possession, production, promotion and distribution all being punishable by Malaysian criminal law. Offenders can expect anything from large fines, community service or up to five years in prison.
Though there is no widespread state censorship, internet sites that are obscene or indecent are prohibited.
As a result, there is limited information on the porn viewing trends of the Malaysian people. However, PornMD does keep a tab on the top search terms from across the globe and the latest top ten search keywords across their site from Malaysia were:
- Mom Son
- Japanese Wife
Malaysian Porn Sites
Despite being illegal to produce, there is lots of amateur Malaysian porn available online with much of it filmed from within the country.
Our top picks for sites featuring Malaysia Porn are:
LGBTQ in Malaysia
Same sex activity is illegal in Malaysia and is both a part of the colonial-era ban on sodomy and oral sex as well as Islamic law. Possible punishments, under secular law, include large fines and up to twenty years in prison. There are even cases where corporal punishment has been meted out.
Islam is the predominant religion in Malaysia and they have very conservative and traditional views on homosexuality and other forms of sexual diversity; largely it is not accepted or tolerated. Recent examples of this include:
- In 2010, the film classification board of Malaysia said it would only allow the depiction of homosexual characters that repented or died.
- In 2001, the Prime Minister of Malaysia at the time announced that he would deport any visiting diplomats or foreign ministers who were gay. The current Prime Minister, Najib Razak provoked a Human Rights Watch in 2015 by stating that Malaysia could not defend gay, lesbian and transsexual rights.
- In 2005, the Malaysian Navy announced that it would never accept homosexuals in their ranks.
Despite efforts by campaigners, including the Prime Minister’s daughter (Marina Mahathir) the state of legal rights for the LGBTQ community in Malaysia is very poor. In 2017, a Pride event was cancelled due to public pressure from Islamist groups.
Transgendered individuals also face widespread discrimination with Sharia (Islamic) Law prohibiting any form of cross-dressing. The consequences for breaking this law can be severe and include physical assault and even sexual abuse.
It is very common for LGBTQ persons to be regularly discriminated against due to their sexual orientation or gender identity. Arbitrary arrests, imprisonment and human rights abuse are, sadly, a frequent occurrence.
It is thought that many transsexuals face such extreme discrimination that they are unable to find work in the country other than through prostitution. For this reason, the sex trade in Malaysia has a high number of TS.
Overall, the situation for LGBTQ rights in Malaysia is very poor and individuals who identify as LGBTQ are cautioned about visiting the country.
Top Classified/Personals Sites in Malaysia
Almost 68% of the population has internet access in Malaysia with many using the web to post and respond to classified personals for dating. Though many singles do so for serious relationships, there are sites which appeal to more casual encounters.
Our selection of personals sites in Malaysia are aimed at Westerners and English-speaking expats.
The essential casual encounters personals site of Craigslist has a good coverage in Mayalsia though mainly in the capital. As ever, the site is broken down into several categories including ‘Casual Encounters’, ‘Women Seeking Men’, ‘Men Seeking Women’ and ‘Misc. Romance’. There are quite a high number of escorts using the service as well as a greater ratio of men to women but it is still a useful place to start, particularly as using Craigslist is free.
The personal ads on this site are split into four categories; men seeking women or men and women seeking men or women.
You can then filter the 1000 or so results by opting for relationship type (long-term, short-term, activity partners or pen pals) before filtering by state/city.
Once you’ve narrowed your results down there is a good range of listings to browse through though some are a little dated. Ads have a very basic amount of information though usually come with one or two photographs as well as contact details.
The site does attract escorts and prostitutes so do be aware when responding to an ad that they may well be looking for payment in return for services rendered. An obvious way to check this is they give their location as Bukit Bintang (or other red light area – see above).
Like Craigslist, Locanto is free to use either to browse or advertise. It has similar categorisation of personal ads and includes:
- Casual Encounters
- Fetish Encounters
- Women Looking for Men
- Couples Seeking Men
This is in addition to a good ‘Personals Services’ section which includes escorts. This should mean there are less professional ads in the casual encounters category but isn’t always the case.
There are over 1000 listings across the personals section but you can narrow this down to your approximate location.
Love Awake is an international singles site which has a good mix of listings for Malaysia. The service is often used by more mature individuals and seems to be aimed mainly at more serious dating. However it is a mixed bag so the best way to find out is to have a look at your area. It’s free and simple to use and attracts more than 3.8 million visitors each month (whole site, not just Malaysia).
Mingle2 is one of the busiest free online dating sites in the word. Globally they receive almost 4million visitors each month
In Malaysia, Mingle2 is quite popular though (as usual) many more men than women are using the service.
It’s free to register and use and should give you the opportunity of placing your own ad or finding a suitable date yourself.
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