Want to know more about sex in Thailand?
Sharing borders with Myanmar, Laos, Malaysia and Cambodia, the Southeast Asian country of Thailand is home to almost 69 million people. A largely Buddhist nation, Thailand is a popular tourist destination and has an infamous variety of adult entertainment options for tourists and locals alike.
In this Thailand Sex guide, we take a look at cultural attitudes towards sex and hooking up in the Land of Smiles. We also discuss prostitution laws, Thai porn viewing trends, and some of the best sites and apps for hooking up in Thailand.
Attitudes Towards Sex in Thailand
Known as the land of the free, Thailand is one of the only Asian countries that has never been colonized by a European nation. The Thai culture is therefore one of the best preserved despite recent western influences.
Almost 95% of the nation is Buddhist and, historically, many young men would serve time as a monk. Though less common, this tradition pervades in some areas of the country.
Like many Asian countries, Thai people live in extended family groups which can make physical relationships a little hard for the younger generation.
See more: Dating Culture in Thailand
As a result, love hotels are common and these motels rent rooms by the hour for courting couples. They are also a popular place to go for men using the services of prostitutes.
Sex tourism in Thailand is very popular and Bangkok has several large red-light areas.
Entertainment venues selling sex are common and you can find a variety of ways to get services from ‘short-time’ love from street hookers, manual and oral in salons and soapy massage parlours to full service. The industry is diverse and inexpensive with the added appeal of attractive Thai girls.
There is also a long history of Western interest in Thai wives and girlfriends with a regular stream of men visiting the country specifically seeking a long-term partner.
Women who do not work in the sex industry do not generally enjoy a great deal of sexual freedom and they are largely expected to be submissive and docile. Women are often expected to be virgins when they marry and remain monogamous.
Times are changing fast though, particularly in the larger cities like Bangkok, where hooking up and dating more liberally is becoming less taboo.
A traditionally patriarchal society, gender inequality is an issue and women face discrimination in the workplace, in education and in the home. There is a good deal of double standards at play between men and women with Thai men being encouraged to seek sex for pleasure and recreation.
Due to these factors, there is a ready supply of women who are actively seeking relationships with western men. The appeal of emigrating to a country which offers greater opportunities for women cannot be ignored.
In spite of the reputation that the country has for its sex industry, the general population has a rather conservative view of sex.
Public nudity, showing affection and talking about sex are culturally almost taboo but western influences and urbanization are challenging traditional views.
A poll undertaken by Time Magazine in 2001 revealed some of the sexual appetites and habits of the nation and identified that:
- 87% of men initiate sex compared to just 14% of women.
- 80% of men and 72% of women have had oral sex.
- 64% of Thai men and 59% of Thai women need extra stimulus to get aroused with two in five men and one in five women regularly watching porn.
- 8% of men and 5% of women have engaged in ‘cyber-sex’.
- 30% of Thai men and 61% of Thai women have only had one sexual partner with 11% of men and just 2% of women having had more than 13.
Vaginal and oral sex are quite common but anal and fetishist sex is not.
Sex education is Thailand is poor and is a result of the subject being a social taboo.
Parents are not forthcoming with information, partly from embarrassment as well as their own miseducation. It is reported that many parents give false information. However, sex can form part of humour in Thai culture and ribaldry among same-gender peers is more common than serious discussion on the subject.
The subject was first introduced to the curriculum in 1978 but merely covers biology as opposed to sociocultural issue. However, lessons do include some level of education on contraception, STDs and safe sex.
The first case of HIV/AIDS was reported in Thailand in 1984 and the country has had one of the highest prevalence rates of the disease in Asia.
As a result, condom use in the country is quite high and the government backed 100% Condom Use campaign has been quite successful.
Sex venues commonly have signs up which state ‘No Condom, No Sex, No Refund’.
Overall, Thailand has a convergence of beliefs, morals and traditions with influences from the West which has produced an environment in which sex is common and tolerated but not accepted.
The sex industry and pornography are illegal… and yet mainstream. Like many Asian nations, sex is a private part of social life but is viewed with modesty in public.
How to Meet Women in Thailand
Thai women are traditionally conservative and unlikely to make the first move.
If you want to meet women, you will need to pluck up the courage to start the conversation or pick up on subtle hints that she is interested.
Women will often go out in groups, making shopping malls one of the best ‘hookup’ locations. The good news is that Thailand has many of these!
There is a large and sprawling bar scene in all of the major cities, particularly Bangkok. The nightclub scene is lively and when the Thais go out to party, they like to party hard.
Much of the heavy lifting in social interactions with Thai girls will be done on messenger apps. They are addicted to their phones and will often spend half of a date on them, taking photos, sending messages and chatting with friends. Don’t be offended – this is just the culture in Thailand.
You will need LINE or WeChat to stay connected.
We have some detailed tips on meeting Thai girls in this guide. It’s aimed at Bangkok but the tips on approaching women applies to all cities and towns.
Best Thailand Dating Sites
If you’ve come to this site, we’re guessing you are primarily interested in casual dating and hooking up.
For hooking up in Thailand, we can recommend two sites:
A popular platform with millions of profiles, including many women based in Thailand.
Another site designed for casual encounters with a large presence in South East Asia.
If you are looking for a more traditional Thai dating site, with less focus on flings and casual encounters, then our top pick would be…
The following sites are available with free registration but require a paid subscription to access the most useful features.
They offer a range of ads from those looking for a no-strings-attached date to the lonely hearts searching for love. Some are even designed around holiday ‘romances’:
Best Thailand Dating Apps
Beyond dating sites, there are a bunch of apps that you may already be familiar with that can be used to meet Thai girls.
Our top picks include:
Thai girls love using their phones and they’re not afraid to use dating apps.
Installing these is a good way to massively expand your dating horizons.
Thai Classifieds and Personals
In the city of Bangkok, personals dating is very common with a particular focus on Thai women seeking wealthy western men for serious relationships or holiday dating with benefits Of course, there are plenty of sites that also offer genuine connections for singles looking for romance as well as those offering casual encounters.
Outside of Bangkok, there are pockets of the Thai community that use the internet for dating purposes but these tend to be focused around the larger cities and towns of Phuket, Pattaya, Ko Samui and Chang Mia.
Our first selection focuses on free classified sites where the principle focus is on casual sex and hook ups. There are certainly a good deal of women who use these sites to advertise paid sexual services and you should be cautious when responding to ads that some of the listings are professionals.
Some sites offer a free service but the best features are available on a paid subscription basis.
The Adult Industry in Thailand
Producing and distributing porn is illegal in Thailand and the country has banned many porn sites on the internet.
However, policing is fairly slack and censorial powers used by the state appear to be selective rather than overarching.
Certainly, internet users who employ a proxy server can readily bypass state filters.
As a result, porn is available but the majority of this is amateur produced content though the country does attract foreign porn makes.
The combination of the low cost of production plus a large number of adult sex workers which makes Thailand an appealing place to work. Not to mention the fact that it is a beautiful area of the world with good-looking women.
The American, ‘Naughty Nigel’ is one such film producer who has made a name for himself by capturing his exploits with various bargirls. His work features on premium pay-per-view sites such as Cream Pie Thais and Asian Suck Dolls.
Though such activities are criminal in Thailand, most charges are settled before they reach court and money talks when it comes to avoiding lengthy jail terms.
Traditionally, porn in Thailand is more suggestive and erotic than hardcore and printed content is more common.
Top Porn Stars in Thailand
Due to the current laws, professional porn stars from Thailand find regular and well-paid work outside of the country with most working in America.
Some have found work in other Asian countries that have a good adult industry, notably Japan.
Though born in the USA, the most famous porn star with Thai heritage is undoubtedly Lucy Thai.
She is well known for her DP scenes as well as interracial and bukkake action. Over the years she has worked with some of the larger production studios including Brutal Asia, Swank Mag and the Stoned Group.
Her sister, Nyla, is also an adult movie star whose work can be seen on ‘Teens with Tits 5’.
There must be something about sibling rivalry in Thailand as sisters Abbie and Annie Lee are also big names in the industry. They are both American but are of Thai descent with Abbie being born in Bangkok. They have worked with other Asian stars London Keyes, Jesica Bangkok and Asa Akira.
According to the popular porn tube site, XVideos, the top ten Thai porn stars of recent times are:
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The Notorious Natt Chanapa (also known as Kesarin Chaichalermpol or Nong Natt) fell foul of her country’s pornography laws in 2005.
Chanapa was arrested after films were found showing her having sex with a variety of Japanese and Western men.
She was lucky enough to escape harsh punishment but received a large fine and suspended prison sentence. Now retired, Chanapa’s best titles include ‘Jan Dara: The Beginning’, ‘Tokyo Hunter’ and ‘Asian Heart’.
She also made headlines when she married the aging multi-millionaire, Harold Jennings Nesland Jr in 2016.
Labelled a gold-digger, many viewed Chanapa’s commitment to the 70 year old architect with some cynicism. The relationship wasn’t to be and she divorced him in 2017, announcing plans to return to the adult film business.
Other Thai stars of note include:
- Mya Luana
- Kim XXX
- Suan Lecroix
- Natalie Wang
- Sai Tai Tiger
- Nicha Lee
- Rosie Rocket
- Ladyboy Long Mint
- Yasmine Lee
Farang Ding Dong, a speciality porn site featuring women with enormous breasts has quite a few Thai models including Duan, Bee, Bono and Fern. The latter’s chest size is a whopping 100”+.
Thailand Porn Viewing Trends
Pornography is legal for personal use but is illegal to produce and distribute with the intention of selling it to the general public. Enforcement of the law is quite lax and though some websites are banned, many are still available to access from Thailand.
However, global tube hosting site, Pornhub is the 49th most visited site in Thailand receiving more visitors that popular global shopping channel, Ali Express.
Thai people are searching the site regularly for hentai, yaoi and virtual reality content; in fact, Thailand is the most popular country for VR porn.
Porn featuring women in glasses is also popular in Thailand and they are the 9th ranked country in the world where this search term is used regularly (Hungary is in first place, followed by Poland, Croatia, Finland, Czech Republic, Ireland, Serbia and Canada).
According to PornMD, the top ten most searched terms for sex in Thailand are:
- Japanese Mom
- Japanese Wife
- Mommy Son
The search term dad/daddy is also a popular one in Thailand and they are only ranked behind the Philippines for these keywords.
Women in Thailand are 38% more likely to be watching porn on their mobiles than Thai men.
Best Thai Porn Sites
Thai Porn is readily available across all of the major tube sites including Pornhub, XHamster and XVideos. However, there is an abundance of good sites dedicated to Thai porn stars, both amateur and professional, including ladyboys.
See our full guide: The Best Thai Porn Sites
But to summarise, some of our favourite Thai porn sites are:
The following aren’t exclusively Thai Ladyboy porn sites and do feature other Asian nationalities; however, there is a good selection of transsexual stars from Thailand.
- Ladyboy Gold
- Ladyboy Glamour
- Ladyboy Dildo
- Ladyboy Wank
- Ladyboys Fucked Bareback
- LB Girlfriends
- Ladyboy Tube
- TS Raw
Best Thai Cam Sites
See our full guide: The Best Thai Cam Sites
We have a detailed breakdown of the best Thai cam sites above – where you can watch amateur shows from Thai models (and go private for sexy video chat).
But to give you out top recommendation, we would suggest:
Live Sex Asian – [View the site here]
It’s not easy to find dedicated Thai cam sites, but Live Sex Asian has by far the biggest collection of Thai models that we’ve found on the web.
It’s part of the popular LiveJasmin network and is a great place to hook up with Thai cam girls.
Prostitution Laws in Thailand
Prostitution in Thailand is illegal but the law is very rarely enforced. The industry is estimated to bring around $6.4 billion in revenue to the country or 1.6% of the GDP.
The trade is legislated under The Prevention and Suppression of Prostitution Act 1996 which specifically prohibits:
- Persons who solicit sex ‘in an open and shameless manner’.
- Persons who cause a nuisance to the public.
- Persons associating in a ‘prostitution establishment’.
In general, prostitution that takes place in private does not carry penalties but heavier penalties can be meted out to owners of brothels, prostitution rings or trafficking.
The country’s sex trade originally boomed during the 1960s and 1970s coinciding with the Vietnam war. American troops were regularly flown to Thailand for R&R (Rest and Recuperation) breaks; these were more commonly known as I&I breaks – Intoxication and Intercourse.
Since the 60s and 70s, the low cost of prostitution and relatively easy access has led to the country being a prime spot for sex tourism. The capital of Bangkok is easily the largest hub for the trade but popular holiday resorts of Ko Samui, Pattaya, Chiangmai and Phuket also have popular red-light areas.
See our Thailand city guides below:
- Adult entertainment in Bangkok
- Adult entertainment in Pattaya
- Adult entertainment in Phuket
- Adult entertainment in Chiang Mai
Estimates on the number of prostitutes working in the country vary hugely with some placing the figure at just 30,000 whilst others believe there are more like a quarter of a million.
Sex workers can be found in a variety of entertainment venues from karaoke and hostess bars to soapy massage salons and blowjob bars.
After considering a legalised system in 2003, the Thai Government has pledged to abolish the sex industry in the country.
Our assessment is that the dynamics of sex in Thailand are unlikely to change anytime soon!
The LGBTQ Scene in Thailand
Often viewed as an LGBTQ friendly tourist destination Thailand is quite liberal minded but legislation is only just beginning to reflect the growing social tolerance for this community.
Beyond the iconic ladyboys of Bangkok, LGBTQ citizens can face discrimination and do not enjoy some of the same rights afforded the heterosexual population.
Attitudes have been changing over the last few decades and, since the 1990s. It was only in 2005 that transsexuals and homosexuals could join the army having previously being exempt from national service due to their ‘condition’ being classed as a mental disorder.
Other institutions have been adapting to a rising number of LGBTQ members and Thai prisons allow inmates to be placed in the prison which matches their adopted gender.
Same sex activity had been legal since 1956, homosexuals have the same age of consent as heterosexuals (15 years old).
However, there is no recognition of same-sex relationships in law; either as a civil union or by marriage. A bill to pass legislation on same-sex relationships is in the pipeline and has good cross-party support. W
It could be some years before same-sex marriage is legalised with just 59.2% of the population supporting the notion.
In 2015, the Gender Equality Act become the first piece of legislation which officially referred to homosexuals and bans any discrimination on the grounds of gender and sexuality.
There is a clause in this which exempts the law from applying to educational and religious groups or if such discrimination is ‘in the public interests’.
Transsexualism is common in Thailand and the gender reassignment surgery (GRS) has been performed in the country since 1975. Due to their competitive prices and experienced surgeons, Thailand is currently one of the most popular international locations for health-tourists to have GRS surgery.
Despite Thailand’s reputation for its ladyboys and the ease of access to surgery, transsexuals still face discrimination in many aspects of their daily life.
Ladyboys who perform in clubs and bars generally do not face this problem but individuals pursuing other careers can face humiliation, harassment and prejudice.
There are incidences of hate crime and violence towards members of the LGBTQ community but these are quite rare. However, they can and do include physical and sexual abuse as well as verbal assaults.
In general, Thailand is a safe place for LGBTQ tourists as long as they exercise a general level of caution for their safety.
Bangkok in particular has a large and vibrant gay community where diversity is celebrated. After eleven years of abstinence, Bangkok is once again hosting a Pride festival from 2017.
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